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Watch out for snakes in disguise. We will meet many of them in our lifetime, and they are pretty-easy to spot out. I’m talking about those people who are internally malicious and deceiving, but try to cover it up on the outside. I spot them out pretty-easy, but some people aren’t as fortunate. These kind of people want to see you fail because it makes them feel better about themselves. This is where the phrase “actions speak louder than words” comes into play.

You can spot these people out through their interactions with other people or even with yourself. These are the kind of people who will act nice to a stranger in front of you than make an obscene remark about them after they have left. I’m going to provide to you a checklist you can use to help determine these kind of people. However, there are many more factors you should consider:

1. The length of the relationship. Time really does know how to strengthen relationships. If the relationship is relatively-new, then you barely know the person. Time and experience is everything. Snakes in disguise are usually newly-formed relationships.

2. Their history. Has this person talked about having a rough past or an insecure environment at home? These kind of people are the ones who usually speak very harshly towards their home-life. This doesn’t necessarily mean that they are a snake in disguise if they’ve had a rough past, but the odds definitely increases.

3. Comment slips. We are all human and we all make mistakes. Sometimes when we speak, we let things slip and make a remark that we normally wouldn’t ever make. Listen to these type of comments, because if they are in fact negative about you or someone else, then you can clearly know their inner-thoughts.

4. Extensive coverups. We sometimes ask favors from people. We all need a helping-hand at some time. These kind of people won’t help you out with even the littlest things, but they will always have an extensive coverup at hand, trying to convince you of their inability to provide you with even the smallest favor. Sometimes you may even catch them in the lie.

5. Ego. We all have egos and we all like to talk about ourselves. This is normal. However, snakes in disguise like only talking about themselves. They talk and talk, but when it’s your turn, you see them look away and immediately become uninterested. Body language can help you spot out their inner-thoughts. You can tell when someone doesn’t care how you feel and this could be a great indicator of whether or not this person is actually a snake in disguise.

6. Outlook towards others. Sometimes all you have to do is study their interactions with other people. Have you ever met someone who acts all nice and sincere to someone in person and make a negative remark about them to you behind-their-back?

7. First-hand accounts. Snakes in disguise like talking about people behind-their-backs, and you may be one of these people. Has anyone ever told you that this person has been doing so? Usually, all you have to do is study the body language of the other person to determine if they’ve been talking about you.

8. Lie after lie. Snakes in disguise like to lie and lot of it. They will lie about the littlest things, to the point where it seems even pointless. Is this person lieing a lot for no apparent reason at all?

9. Response times. Real friends respond back to people’s phone calls and text messages immediately. Snakes in disguise take their time and may not even respond back at all. Everything is about them and they’ll talk to you when they feel like it.

10. Too-good to be true. Snakes in disguise attempt to adapt themselves to every situation. They will pretend to be on the same-page with you in even the rarest and littlest situations. Sometimes, it always is too-good to be true.

These are ten indicators you can use to help determine whether or not you are in a relationship with a snake in disguise. I would say that four or more of these indicators clearly indicates one. Not everyone is a snake in disguise. Most people are internally-good and sincere, but there are always a few rotten-apples in the barrel. These kind of people also don’t make it very far in life. Their actions catch-up with them quickly and they become easier to spot out.

The best thing to do when you are in a relationship with a snake in disguise is to limit your time with them and not-trust them at all.